Stephen Kaufman, M.D., Christian Vegetarian Association (CVA)
Essay: Existential Questions, part 2
Last week I discussed how attempting to answer the universal existential
question “Where did I come from?” lends itself to answers that favor empathy
and compassion with other people and animals. This week, I explore the
implications of our attempts to address the question “What happens to me
when I die?”
Perhaps because of an innate survival instinct, our knowledge of the
inevitability of our death can cause great anxiety. We naturally want to
know what will happen to our sense of self after we die, and for many people
the prospect that the self might be totally obliterated is terrifying.
Our own mortality is a personal concern, and consequently reflections about
our mortality tend to turn our thoughts inward. As we contemplate our
mortality, we feel separated from other beings, who cannot experience our
own death with us. Though having loved ones nearby as one approaches death
may ease the pain and fear, ultimately each of us dies alone.
In addressing the question of what happens to us when we die, religions
generally offer egocentric answers. For example, many religions offer
promises of eternal bliss to those who either do the right things (such as
good actions or proper rituals) or who believe the right things. The focus
is on the individual rather than the wider community or the world at large.
Because many religions relate post-mortem destiny to the individual’s
actions or beliefs during life, many people wonder whether they are worthy
of a contented everlasting existence. I suspect that widespread concerns
about worthiness derive in part from a lifetime of having rewards and
punishments tied to performance, from behaving properly in childhood to
being an effective employee in adulthood. With this lifetime of experiences,
it seems natural that any eternal rewards would relate to activities during
our lives.
Related to concerns about worthiness is a commonplace deep-seated sense of
guilt derived from our failures and feelings of inadequacy. To the degree
that people internalize this guilt, they run the risk of feeling unworthy of
eternal reward – an unpleasant prospect. Often, in an attempt to relieve
their guilt and increase their perceived prospects of eternal reward, people
try to project their sense of guilt onto others. They blame others for their
own shortcomings and failures, and this is the hallmark of scapegoating.
So, addressing the question of our origins tends to encourage empathy with
others, while thinking about our mortality prompts us to look inward for
answers. Next week, I will consider how this tension influences our response
to the third universal question: What is the purpose of my life? I will also
explore how Christianity addresses this tension.
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Existential Questions, part 3
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