Stephen Kaufman, M.D., Christian Vegetarian Association (CVA)
Essay On Forgiveness
Last week, I wrote about the movie Rachel Getting Married, in which Kim
is oppressed by guilt after accidentally killing her younger brother. She
had been drunk and high and drugs when she drove off a bridge. At one point,
Kim confronts her mother. Kim says, “You knew I was on drugs. You knew I was
drinking. You knew I was out of control. Why did you leave me in charge of
my brother?” Her mother, in a fury, strikes Kim in the face with a closed
fist.
I suspect that many people would initially condemn Kim’s blaming her mother.
Kim’s irresponsible behavior led to her brother’s death. Yet the mother’s
violent response is telling. If Kim’s accusation were groundless, her mother
would have regarded it as sadly delusional. The mother’s anger reflected her
recognition that Kim’s charge had a degree of merit.
We prefer to see things in black-and-white – there are guilty people and
innocent people. However, the real world is rarely that simple. There are
almost always many factors that lead to mistakes and tragedies, and usually
many people contribute. Is the psychopath who commits robbery and murder
entirely to blame for the crime, or are abusive parents, schoolyard bullies,
or communities that looked the other way when they saw this person being
mistreated as a child partly responsible?
The great difficulty of ascribing guilt properly should discourage us from
judging other people. We have a responsibility to discern – certain actions
are wrong and should be condemned – but we border on arrogance if we claim
that we would do differently if we walked in their shoes. As animal
advocates, we are right to denounce unnecessary harm to animals, but our
recognition of this rather obvious truth should not make us feel or act
superior. All of us are creations of God. I am grateful that my life’s
journey has taken me along a path that does not, to the best of my ability,
harm God’s animals. This has allowed me to live more at peace with myself
and the world, and I offer thankful prayers.
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