Stephen Kaufman, M.D., Christian Vegetarian Association (CVA)
Reflections on Forgiveness and Faith
(March 17, 2010)
The movie Rachel Getting Married focuses on Kim who, several years
previously, was drunk and high on drugs when she drove the family car off a
bridge, killing her younger brother. Kim relates, “I could never believe in
a god who could forgive me.” What might it mean for God to forgive her?
Nobody, including God, can make things right – Kim made some terrible
choices that resulted in a great tragedy. Indeed, how can God forgive, when
the offense was not against God but rather against her helpless brother and
against her deeply wounded family? And Kim’s offense was also against
herself in that she experienced a deep sense of loss and a seemingly
insurmountable feeling of guilt. At one point, Kim says that nothing she
could do with her life would make the final sum come out positive.
I don’t think God’s forgiveness means that God forgets the past. People in
Kim’s circumstances are unable to accept such an idea. God’s forgiveness
simply means that God still offers love, regardless of what we have done.
The reason God offers love is that, as our faith teaches, the spark of life
that animates us comes from God. The core of our being is grounded on an act
of love. Just as we would love a child who had deeply disappointed us, God
loves what God has created, even if those creations have fallen far short of
the glory of God (Romans 3:23). King David’s life provides us with an
example of this.
While our faith teaches that God offers forgiveness in the form of
unconditional love, forgiveness only happens when we are ready to accept it.
It will take great faith for Kim to believe that God can still love her, and
it’s unlikely that Kim, who has so much self-loathing, will find this faith
on her own. That’s why community is so important to faith. Kim’s greatest
hope for salvation – in the sense of finding spiritual healing – is to find
a community that values and cherishes her because she is a creation of God.
If that community reflects God’s love and concern with their own words and
actions, she can feel valued, regardless of whether or not the sum good of
her life outweighs the bad.
This view of God as offering love to everyone is, in my view, crucial to the
spiritual salvation of people who feel estranged from God either because
they believe that they have let down God or that God has let them down.
Logically it follows that a loving, compassionate God who loves sinners like
Kim who unintentionally harmed her brother would never look upon humanity’s
intentional torture of innocent creatures – also God’s creations – and smile
approvingly. The test of any faith, I believe, is what it teaches us about
what to do with those who are most vulnerable. A faith that sees God as
siding with victimizers is simply a facilitator of evil. Though Christians
throughout the ages have claimed God’s stamp of approval over slavery,
subjugation of women, ostracism of homosexuals, and abuse of animals, I am
convinced that the faith of Christ, which we are called to emulate, is one
that lovingly sides with victims.
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